network play

[Erik Jessen]

Here's a question for the networking gurus out there:
I'd like to play via the internet.

I have a cable-modem & a router/firewall.  My IP address
is (relatively) static.  My friend is using a regula 56K modem.

1) will Xconq be fast enough over a 56K modem?
2) how do we find each other?  Should I host the game, and
    then he connect to me, or the other way around?  Or is
    this even possible?

I know just enough of this network stuff to be dangerous...

Thanks!
Erik